When I’m considering how many people there are in this world and all of the things that are going on in any one of those person’s lives, it’s very hard to fathom that our Heavenly Father can really know and care about what is going on in my life on any given day. I know how important all these things are to me, large and small, but how in the world can all of that be important to Him? How can I be important to Him? My head hurts just thinking about it and if I ponder those thoughts too long, discouragement has a tendency to creep in. So, do I believe my thoughts or do I believe what Jesus said, that not only does our Heavenly Father have intent attention on each and every one of us, He knows exactly what is going on even with the sparrows.
If we can begin to really understand how interested our Heavenly Father is in every aspect of our lives it will dramatically change the way we interact with Him. How many times have you heard that Christianity isn’t about a religion it’s about a relationship? If that’s true, then what makes something a relationship? Now maybe you’re not very good with relationships or you’ve had a lot of bad ones ranging from bad family interactions, bad boyfriends or friends. Relationships where they treated you terribly, you came away hurt and broken. You wonder if you struggle having good relationships with people you can see, how in the world can you have a relationship with a God you can’t see? Those are all very valid concerns and completely normal. The answer is interesting, kind of like the question, “Which came first, the chicken or the egg?” I’ve probably got your attention now wondering how in the world did we get to chicken and eggs??!! Here’s what I’ve been coming to learn, is that without a close and deep relationship with my Heavenly Father I am going to have a really difficult time building strong, healthy relationships with those I care about here on earth. Why is that? Here’s why. As you may have noticed, we humans, and us girls ;), are very self focused. We look at things at how they impact us and the world/environment we are working to create for ourselves. Our perspective on relationships tend to be selfish, which means we get hurt and we give hurts when left to do relationships on our own. By having a deep, abiding relationship with your Heavenly Father you begin to look at people through His eyes and see people as He sees them which is through eyes of love, kindness and giving of yourself, looking for nothing in return (Luke 6:35*).
So here’s the cool thing, as we begin to develop a personal relationship with our Heavenly Father, and we make that our top priority, all of these other benefits begin to be produced out of that because there is so much life in Him. He brings life to us, confidence and security and out of that we are able to become healthy emotionally and in turn build healthy relationships with others. Now that doesn’t mean that all future relationships are great, because there is always the other person who has decisions to make about their part. What it does mean is that God will give you patience when you need it, compassion for others and sometimes the Holy Spirit will tell you that you need to let a relationship go because the other individual won’t let it be healthy. From Him springs the very essence of life, so let’s get rooted in Him (don’t forget last week’s resource of Andrew Murray’s Abiding in Him!) and remember His eye is on the sparrow and so much more on us and out of that wellspring will also grow beautiful earthly relationships. Who knew! We’d get to love and be loved in an overflow of being our Father’s Daughters!
* Luke 6 is a wonderful chapter to study on how our Heavenly Father wants us to treat others.
Resource – His Eye is On the Sparrow http://www.ccesonline.com/hymns/sparrow.htm At the bottom of the page of this hymn is the story of how this hymn came about and I found it very touching.
Resource – Relationship Bible Verses http://www.biblestudytools.com/topical-verses/relationship-bible-verses/ If you’re not sure what God has to say about relationships, ours with Him, His with us and ours with others, this link provides some good scripture to read and meditate on because at the end of the day this life is about our relationship as our Father’s Daughters and our relationships with others!
A Daughter’s Prayer – I am completely and thoroughly loved. Not only am I loved but God loves each and every one of us the same. May I see each person as God sees them, as is His heart towards them. Holy Spirit I pray that this selfishness that has been in me and grown in me would be transformed to be mindful of others. Thinking of them, being thoughtful and doing things that show them Your love. As my mind is renewed and I operate with my new heart, getting my thoughts off myself because I can rest in the knowledge that my Abba is taking care of me. I can then be used by Him to show His kindness and mercy to others. Abba, I feel complete resistance to this in my spirit. My flesh cringes with the thought. But, You are greater and we can have my flesh crucified and the love of Christ is shed abroad in my heart. I will dwell on good things. I will remain humble and thankful. I will encourage others and let them know how much I appreciate them. Because I am a new creature and old things have passed away and all thing have become new and all things are of Christ, I can overcome. I humble myself before You. In my own strength I cannot do this, but in You all things are possible. Help me today to be more thoughtful and kind. Giving no thought for myself, abandoning selfishness and showing grace and kindness to others. In Jesus’ holy name, amen!